After an early morning meeting with my husband, I started my usual thinking about what I wanted to accomplish today. I needed to get the meat out, catch up on the laundry, use the Rainbow to pick up those dang nuts.
Being A Good Listener
When I just sat down to pour myself a fresh cup of coffee from my French Press that I received my first person to visit with. There’s been several today. I listened and I thought about these sweet ladies to form a general synopsis. We all have that desire to be somewhere else. To want to feel comfortable in our own skin. To see justice served. To find that place that we wish we were already there.
Regardless of the pretty perfect pictures that we see on Instagram of the perfect life that some may appear to have or the fun Facebook status updates. We all struggle. Or have struggles. Some just manage it differently.
Sometimes It’s Me
We can be our worst enemy. Often, the devil, gets more credit more often than not. It’s us that tends to take those thoughts and put action behind it. Even if it is only verbally.
Metaphorically, we have to draw the line in the sand. Maybe that is something you need to hear.
I was complimented about my recent journey with Keto. One of the things that kind of stuck out in one of the conversations that I am being brave. However, they shared that they didn’t want to read my blog post because I used the word, “naked” in my title. By the way, I’m not posing for the public to see half nude photos of me. Nor poses in my undergarments. It would be entirely defeating the purpose of why I wrote my post in the first place. I’m the one that would decide if I look good naked with Keto beginner recipes. As mentioned it was something that I was personally doing for myself. And so far, I’m going strong and committed.
As women to mothers we tend to put ourselves last and put up with a lot of crap. From relationships to self-induced predicaments. At times, we may have to evaluate is this good for me? Is this drawing me closer to God? Is this drawing me closer to my husband? Is this drawing me closer to my children?
I was listening to a guy talk about how to talk to your husband to be better at something. He gave an example of a situation where a wife said to her husband that she wished her husband would be more prayerful. He carried on to suggest to the wife, “Have you thought about praising your husband?”
She chuckled and said, “What do you mean?“
The man responded, “Compliment your husband.” Now at the time, the woman just kinda marinated on it for like a minute or two. Scoffed and moved on.
Then an opportunity opened up where her husband prayed over dinner with somewhat of a child’s prayer. “God is good, God is great. Let us thank Him for our food.” The wife had a moment where she noticed that the kids were holding hands with daddy and her. That moment sparked her to whisper in her husband’s ear, “Honey, that was good.”
Of course, the husband had a moment where he probably didn’t hear it so he asked, “I’m sorry, what was that?” Then the wife openly shared her compliment at the table for all to hear and her husband was encouraged. His ego or confidence got ignited. The husband, started to pray more. He prayed over just about everything. Even when she pulled out her multi-grain cereal bar. And each time, she would share her appreciation and kind words for him. These little things eventually led to what she was hoping to see her husband be a fervent leader in prayer.
Later, my very own husband started talking foolishly. It’s one of those cynical mind tricks that we get into where I’ll never this or that sort of rabbit trail. And that was my moment. I reminded my husband about some truth and complimented him to remember.
My husband’s fun-loving attitude and joyful spirit was back.
Often, we need a makeover. We all go through some slumps. Road blocks happen. Maybe there was a setback or a series of setbacks.
There are things that you can control and you can start with what you can do.
You are precious, valuable and worth it.
Take a personal inventory and genuinely think about the things that are effecting your well-being.
Sometimes to get to a better place you have to draw a line in the sand and make a decision. Start with one goal. Learn how to achieve that goal. Set up some milestones. And tell someone about it. This is what I am doing. Work on the goal until it is finished.
So tell me, what line have you decided to draw in the sand? Feel free to comment below or send me an email.
